“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” John 1:5
Some of life’s lessons are learned when walking the tough road of grief, disappointment or loss. When I went through the challenging trauma of divorce, I read that there were four stages when moving forward. Some of these stages took longer for me to get through than others. Be patient with yourself.
Hurting –
Isaiah 45:3 states: “And I will give you the treasures of darkness and the hidden riches of secret places, that you may know that I, the LORD, am the one who calls you by name.”
Many random things happen to us—a smile, a sunny day, a bird’s song, a message from a friend. We can choose to notice these things and realize that they are gifts from a loving Father. They can remind us that in our difficult circumstances, we are not alone. Sometimes family and friends can feel overwhelming. But, those alone times with a few gentle, loving touches can make a big difference.
Exploring – how can I cope with this, what opportunities are there?
13 Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble,
and he saved them from their distress. Psalm 107:13
When the changes are not of your choosing, journaling is a good way to express your feelings. Your thoughts are formed, and figuring out how to move forward is easier. If there is an opportunity, joining a support group is a good idea. Sharing with others who have had the same experience is very helpful. God is ever-present, but talking to someone “with skin on” can be very helpful.
Becoming Me – What are my strengths? What can I offer?
He brought them out of darkness, the utter darkness, and broke away their chains. Psalm 107:14
As time goes on, you are more comfortable with family and friends. You can trust your emotions more and feel free to participate in more activities. It is good to find fun activities that give you joy. People want to be there for you, and now you are more comfortable with them.
It is also a good time to start walking and exercising more, and be more watchful of what you eat.
Getting Comfortable – I get involved. I feel like I am making a difference.
“…being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it to completion in Christ Jesus.” Phil.1:6
In time, the transition feels complete. You are ready to get involved with life. And know that you are making a difference in the lives of others. God has brought you through the fire, and you have been refined.
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