Embracing Differences: Lessons of Acceptance and Growth

Last evening I attended a Cake Night event at a local Christian recovery house to support the artist who drew the pencil drawing attached to this blog post.  It was a first time experience for me.  There were many stories of how God changes lives and how a steadfast faith in God is needed in difficult battles in our lives.  It was a blessing to have those truths reaffirmed.

However, there was another aspect that was talked about by many.  The men talked about how their lives had been, and continue to be, affected by those around them.  There were examples of mutual support and examples of wisdom shared.  But for me, the most impressive, and perhaps life-changing, encounters these men had were something I hadn’t expected: learning to accept someone who is different.  Stories were told of conflicts of various kinds and how adapting in these relationships led to gaining a friend and to personal growth.

Sharing my story is something I had to learn.  For years, I hid the reality of my situation by pretending that everything was fine and my life was “normal”.  Attending Divorce Care was a blessing.  I felt a freedom to share there.  Instead of looks of unbelief, there were knowing nods — and acceptance.  There were many ways in which I was different from the others in my Divorce Care group, but by sharing what we had in common those differences didn’t matter. I hope that I can offer acceptance more and more in all situation; that my knowing nods can be about accepting the way the person feels without looks of unbelief.

There are still many layers of “my onion” that need to be removed.  But one thing I am learning: as the layers are removed, I grow.  I allow myself to grow into the person God intends me to be.  There is power in sharing our situations, in working through difficult situations and in extending love and care to those we may not understand.

Matthew 25: 35 – 36 says: For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.  There is no mention of “when I understood you or when you are worthy of my attention.  Matthew 10:14 says: If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. Sadly, sometimes we are not ready or are unwilling to accept the help that is offered.

Each of us has something to give.  Each of us has lessons we still need to learn. That’s what I heard last evening.  Stories shared about men who gave and who received. May we all open our hearts wide with willingness to give and receive.

Author: mytapestryblog

I am a Christ-follower, a single again mother of two adult children, a retired nurse and a recovering codependent. My book "My Tapestry - Experiencing the Love of the Designer" was published on February 27, 2017. View all posts by mytapestryblog